17,885 Days
But Who's Counting?
Marriage is the world’s most expensive and rewarding masterclass in human behavior. It’s finding the perfect person and how two imperfect people navigate life together.
This is my 49th wedding anniversary today and I thought I would share a few lessons learned from the days of matrimony I gathered from my experience and from others sharing their ideas with me.








Experience teaches:
A marriage must have open communication.
Practice patience
Forgive each other and let it go.
· “I’m sorry” needs to be used and often.
·Have fun and laugh together.
Marriage is asking, “What do you want for dinner?” Every night of your life.
· Putting the dishes in the dishwasher or taking them out goes a long way in the “impress me book.”
· After you have been together so long our private jokes have a language all their own.
If you say you will be ready in 10 minutes, in code that means 30.
Likewise, if the ballgame will be over in 3 minutes, in code that means 30 minutes or longer.
· I love you more than coffee, but please don’t talk to me before I have my cup.
· We’ve survived 49 years of selective hearing and detailed storytelling.
· My spouse is my favorite person to sit in total silence with while we both look at our phones.
Show appreciation for little things.
Listen to each other.
·Heros come in many forms-rescuing squirrels in the attic, setting up electronics at home, or getting the spider out of the bathtub.
Marriage is the art of companionship and quiet joy.
· Be an encourager and not a critic.
· We have officially spent more time together than apart.
· When you navigate the storms, you come out stronger.
To my husband Mike-
Thank you for putting up with me for nearly five decades.
I think we are finally getting the hang of this.
To my partner in everything: for the last 17, 885 days.



Thank you for sharing ❤️
This is great, Pam -- and happy anniversary!